James’s Story

I first realised I was gay from around the age of twelve. However, even though I had accepted that fact, coming out as a gay man was something I never wanted to do. I had decided pretty early on that I would always remain in the closet, and away from any sort of relationship. This remained my mind set until I was nineteen.

At this age I struggled majorly with coming out of the closet. It was always on my mind, and in most cases, on the tip of my tongue, but I could never bring myself to say “I’m gay”.

To add to the struggle of coming out, I didn’t have anyone who could understand; no gay friends or family to turn to. I accessed many online forums for information, but I was always too nervous to ever involve myself. Although I know full well that everyone in my life is accepting, I was still worried that friends or family would treat me differently because of my sexuality.

Over the course of the first few months of 2014, I managed to gradually tell a couple of my friends that I’m gay. Slowly, I managed to tell my brother, and by March, my mother. Once my Mother knew I was gay, I didn’t care who else knew. Although some people were shocked by the news, nobody was bothered and nobody treated me any differently because of my sexuality.

To summarise, I was over-worried for no particular reason. I am free to be who I am, and everybody in my life still accepts me unconditionally. I felt free, and so proud of myself.

Eventually, I met my boyfriend, whom I love with all my heart, and I’m so proud to walk down the street holding his hand. I’m so proud of us, and I love myself. I would never change a thing.

Being a member of the LGBT community isn’t something you can change, but it is something you should always embrace and be proud of!