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Frequently Asked Questions

Domestic Abuse can be Physical, sexual, psychological, coercive control or financial abuse that takes place within an intimate or family type relationship.
It can form a pattern of controlling behaviour and actions that violate a person’s free will.  It can include forced marriage and so-called ‘honour crimes’ and abuse. Domestic abuse is repetitive, life threatening, and can destroy the lives of many.
Being forced to change your behaviour because you’re frightened of being abused?
Are you experiencing any of the following from the list below?
  • Do they verbally abuse you?
  • Do they constantly criticise you?
  • Are you allowed to go out on your own?
  • Do they check your phone?
  • Do they ask where you have been?
  • Are they jealous and possessive?
  • Do they force you to have sex when you don’t want to?
  • Do they make you feel worthless and undervalued?
  • Do they blame you for the abuse?
  • Are you allowed contact with your friends and family?
  • Do they say they will kill himself if you leave them?
  • Do they threaten to harm the pets?
  • Do they threaten to get custody of the children if they leave?

If you or anyone you know is experiencing any of the above, then it’s possible that they are suffering Domestic Abuse.

At least one in four women experience domestic abuse in their lifetime.  Sadly less than half of these incidents are reported to the police.

Approximately 20% of calls made to the Police are from male victims


  • Poor physical health
  • Depression
  • Loss of income or work
  • Isolation from family/friends
  • Anxiety
  • Physical injury
  • Mental torture and many more.
The vast majority of victims tend to be women and children, with women experiencing more physical and sexual abuse.

Domestic Abuse can happen to anyone regardless of race, religion, class, age or sexuality.

Domestic abuse may start when one partner feels the need to control the other. Abusers may suffer with extreme jealousy, difficulties in controlling anger and other strong emotions.

This behaviour may then takes the form of emotional, physical or sexual abuse. The victim may have seen violence often or they may have been victims themselves.

Alcohol and other chemical substances may contribute to abusive behaviour, for example: A drunk person will be less likely to control his or her violent impulses.

It could also be deemed that should an abuser have witnessed Domestic Abuse as a child, then they may go on to be an abuser themselves as an adult.

Some people are too frightened to leave.  They may be worried about losing their home, their children and even their job.  A lot of people are simply unaware that support is out there for them.
Some people are oblivious that they are victims of abuse as it may have just become ‘the norm’.

You may know someone who has left their partner, but is still a victim of the abuse.
In some cultures people may be threatened by their own family if they decide to leave an abusive relationship.
If you think you know a person like this, please go to the ‘Support Services’ list on our website, and see what support is available for them. 

Yes, of course!  The perpetrator can be a woman against a man, or a man in a same sex relationship.  The thing to remember is:  Any person can be a perpetrator.

Sometimes it is difficult for men to either accept that they are victims of abuse or report the abuse to Police or support services.

They may feel that they are not going to be believed or taken seriously. There are specific support services for men available (see support services section) who will understand and are trained to understand the effects of domestic abuse on males.

Cleveland Police have a zero tolerance to abuse regardless of gender. Staff will be sensitive to the needs of men and they will be taken seriously.

If you are a man suffering domestic abuse do not remain silent. There is help available.  

If you are suffering from domestic Abuse, you may feel frightened, confused, scared and even alone.  YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!

Our website has a list of agencies trained in dealing with support and counselling (See section on Support Services)  Each provider specialises in different areas of Abuse and support.